Rosalyn’s Story – Her Baby is HERE!

Rosalyn’s baby is here.

She arrived one month ago in perfect health!

Mom and baby are doing great!  They are breastfeeding, and Rosalyn’s milk is coming in so good now that she has decided to donate to the Ontario Milk Bank!  What a wonderful gift she is giving to other new moms and their babies!


Rosalyn and baby

What else can I say about Rosalyn and her baby?  I can tell you that I am beyond thrilled that this sweet little girl has come into the world.  In case you haven’t read the previous posts about Rosalyn, she had suffered multiple miscarriages and unexplained infertility.  I have learned a lot from Rosalyn (which is not her real name) and this experience.  I’d like to thank her now for being so open and honest with me and everyone else who is reading this blog.  It was a long journey, with plenty of frustration and heartache along the way.  When you realize what some couples go through to get pregnant, you appreciate what you have and are extremely grateful.  At least that’s what happened to me.  I have heard not only from Rosalyn, but other clients and friends who have gone through infertility treatments.  I was shocked when I learned some of the things they have to do.  Sometimes these couples never do get their babies, and I am truly sorry for them.

I don’t mean to be sad right now.  This is a happy ending!

Just look at this beautiful baby!!


How adorable is she!?

Rosalyn is the 5th winner of my Biggest Contest Ever, a contest I created to help women achieve and support a healthy pregnancy through holistic nutrition.  It has been an incredible honor for me to work with Colleen, Denise, Melissa, Ashley and now Rosalyn as each of these women shared their pregnancy journey’s with me and this blog.

The Biggest Contest Ever is officially over.  I no longer have the time to dedicate to this contest and blog.  I thank you for reading, and sharing these stories with me.  Thank you to all who have entered past contests, and to those women who have won.

Feel free to leave a comment, should you wish to send congratulations to Rosalyn and her family.

Thank you to Jennifer Willard Photography for sharing this beautiful photo of Rosalyn just before her baby girl arrived.

Rosalyn pregnant

Rosalyn’s Story

Remember Rosalyn?  She is my contest winner who I’ve been working with and posting updates on this blog.  If you read my previous blog posts you’ll know she suffered a miscarriage.  In fact, this INTRODUCTORY BLOG I wrote was one of the hardest I’ve ever written.

I took a little break from updating on Rosalyn’s story.  I did this for two reasons.  First, Rosalyn came out.  Meaning, she shared my blog with her family and friends.  When I started this blog just over 4 years ago, it was important for me to keep the identities of my clients confidential.  I mean, who am I to share personal, intimate details about these women with the world?  No, I would never do that.  But, confidentially, I wanted to share these women’s stories.  Their challenges and successes.  And if it comes to it, their heartbreak.  There have been 4 ‘Biggest Contest Ever’ winners before Rosalyn.  I am very pleased to share that each and every one of them now calls themselves mom.

Rosalyn is no longer anonymous.  It was important for her to share this story and she wanted people in her life to know what she was going through.  I feel this was a brave thing for her to do and I’m glad she did it.

The other reason I took a short break from Rosalyn’s story is because I wanted to give her time to grieve her loss.  She was kind enough and strong enough to share her story with me, and anyone reading my blog.  I was not about to pressure her into giving me monthly updates so that I could continue regular blog posts.

Until there was something important to share.

Which there was.

Rosalyn became pregnant again.

Remember, she revealed her identity to her family and friends.   So, when she received that positive pregnancy test she did not want to announce it publically.  I understand that.  And so we did not update on my blog.

Until now.

Rosalyn is currently pregnant!  In fact, she is 34 weeks pregnant today.  She and baby are perfectly healthy! 

White Tulips


In the past I have written these blog posts with nutrition concerns and recommendations based on whatever the mom is experiencing.  But this time I will not be doing that.  Instead I want to share what it feels like to be pregnant after miscarriage.

It’s not the same as my own pregnancy.  When I became pregnant I wanted to tell the world as soon as I found out.  I wanted to shout it off rooftops and I was confident I had a healthy baby and that I would carry that baby to term.  I never thought for a minute that I may lose her or something bad could happen.  This isn’t what it feels like for Rosalyn.  Instead, she has anxiety.  Worry.  Fear.  She has been through more than one miscarriage and years of unexplained infertility.  She doesn’t simply accept that she is pregnant and going to have a healthy baby.  She thinks the worst could still happen.  Even now at 34 weeks.  By now her baby is healthy and strong.  There is no reason to think that something bad may happen, but it is always on her mind.  Until she has that baby in her arms she will have some doubt.  And even then, there is a possibility of the unthinkable.

Honestly, I am only scratching the surface on pregnancy after a loss.  Rosalyn asked that I share THIS LINK which is much more detailed and in depth.

If you are reading this, and experienced loss, or unexplained infertility, please remember that you are not alone.  Rosalyn is one of many who have been through this.  Her light at the end of the tunnel is almost here.  She can see it.  She is ready for it.  And when it gets here it will be the most magical, beautiful miracle you could possibly imagine.

Thank you for reading Rosalyn’s story.

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Rosalyn’s Story

Did you read last month’s blog post about Rosalyn and her miscarriage?  CLICK HERE if you missed it.

Pink and yellow flower website photo


Rosalyn’s baby is gone.  As they knew it would happen, the baby passed.  Physically, miscarriage can go a few different ways.  Sometimes it happens at home, naturally.  Other times it requires a trip to the hospital for a D & C, also known as dilation and curettage.  Rosalyn was hoping a D & C was not necessary and it wasn’t.  Her miscarriage happened at home, naturally.

I don’t have much of an update this month on Rosalyn.  Except that she is living her life, day to day, enjoying her family and their dogs.  She has a busy life!  She has been enjoying ballet with her sons, and trying to focus on staying positive.  She is truly remarkable and resilient.

I should add that every parent who has suffered a miscarriage will deal with their grief in their own way.  Because Rosalyn has been busy, strong, and positive, does not mean it’s not ok to be sad.  In fact, I am quite certain she has her moments of sadness and cries when she needs to.  I guess what I’m trying to say is that yes, she is moving on, she is ok, she is not giving up.  But, there is no right or wrong way to react to a miscarriage.  And if there were I am far from an expert on that subject.

I especially like this quote that Rosalyn sent me last month.

You just got to soldier on and make it through the other side, because lying down to die is not an option. And really, that’s all people with these fertility and loss problems do, is just keep moving, like a shark that doesn’t want to drown. We’re not brave, we’re just surviving.


I know Rosalyn is getting some help by sharing her story.  She has friends and groups that she belongs to that support one another.  We talked a bit about these groups during our last phone call.  I myself joined an online group when I was trying to get pregnant 7 years ago.  I know my group helped me a lot to get through those hard times when month after month I was not pregnant yet, and kept trying.  In fact, I am still friends with many of these women who were in my group at the time.  They are important to me.  They were my support system.  Today I am grateful for these friends, all of whom I have never met in person!

*Every individual is unique and will have different nutritional needs. The recommendations I make for Rosalyn may or may not benefit other women who have similar experiences. The nutritional advice given to Rosalyn is based on a specific, detailed health and lifestyle assessment.  If you are interested in a personal assessment for yourself, please send an e-mail to

Rosalyn’s assessments and recommendations are much more detailed than what is in this blog post. Here, I am sharing her most important issues and some random topics. The information that is shared between us is extensive and continual.

Right now Rosalyn is giving her body a break from the fertility drugs she has been taking.  She is focusing on healing her body with nutrition, and rebalancing her hormones naturally.  One recommendation I gave to her was to eat healthy fats.  Does this surprise you?  A nutritionist who is suggesting to eat more fat?!  Well, healthy fats, or essential fatty acids (EFA’s) are an important part of a healthy diet.  They are necessary for balancing hormones and supporting the endocrine system, as well as the nervous system.  We need EFA’s in our diet.  You have probably heard of the health benefits of Omega 3 fatty acids.  But, this is just one type of fat.  Overall, I recommend a variety of healthy fats (both saturated and unsaturated) that include fish and/or fish oil, cold pressed oils such as olive oil or hempseed oil, coconut oil, butter, eggs (especially eggs including the yolk!) nuts and seeds.

And in case you’re wondering, eating fat doesn’t cause you to gain weight.  Too many calories will!  Just keep in mind that fat tends to be higher in calories which is why you should keep it in moderation.  Generally speaking, we need about 20 – 30% of our daily calories coming from healthy fats.


I will be back next month with an update on Rosalyn.


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Rosalyn’s Story – introductory blog

Meet Rosalyn.

Rosalyn is losing her baby as I am writing this blog.  Or she has lost it already.  Truth is she doesn’t know.  Her baby is 8 weeks old and she was told by her doctor that the heartbeat isn’t strong enough to survive.  They know the baby will die.  They are waiting.

This is the first time I am introducing a contest winner with such a tragic story.  My heart goes out to Rosalyn and her family.  I thought Rosalyn would want to wait for the blog.  I thought she would need time to grieve and I told her we can write this blog later.  Nobody is really waiting for it anyway.  It’s not like I have that big of a following.

But guess what.  Rosalyn asked me to write the blog now.  She wants her story to be heard.  And so here we are.

Have you ever said something with good intentions that came out all wrong?  Not sure what I mean?  When it comes to miscarriage I can think of a few.  Like, ‘at least it wasn’t too far along so you didn’t get too attached.’  Or ‘at least you know you can get pregnant so you can do it again.’  Or ‘the baby is with God now’ to an atheist.  For a complete list of things you should never say to someone who has miscarried, do a search online.  These examples are in the top ten.

When a woman (or a couple – I don’t want to offend any men out there either because their feelings are just as important) is experiencing a miscarriage the last thing you want to do is make her feel worse.  You want to say the right thing.  You want to comfort her.  But, how can anything be comforting at a time like this?  What could you possibly say?  I don’t know.  “I am sorry for your loss” or “I’m here for you if you want to talk about it” are a few that come to mind (I will get into this more a bit later).  You know what you don’t want to say, and you can’t put your foot in your mouth if your mouth isn’t open.  So, you remain silent.  You assume she has a supporting husband or family that will help her get through this.  You feel sad for her until something else comes along to distract you.  And then you forget about it.

Because let’s be honest.  Losing a baby is unthinkable.  You don’t want to think about it.

I don’t know what it feels like to lose a baby.  I am very grateful to have never experienced such a loss.  I do know how it feels to yearn for a baby.  I know how it feels to learn that you are pregnant, after months of trying, and you are the happiest and most grateful you could ever possibly be.  I know how it feels to be eight weeks pregnant and you love that baby growing inside of you.  That baby is real!  That baby is real to a mother the minute she learns she’s pregnant.  You can’t see it or hear it or feel it or touch it, but it’s there.  (I will write ‘it’ in reference to the baby for ease of flow, but I want to write he or she because it is a human being no matter how small or undeveloped.)  By the way, if you would like to see what an eight week old fetus looks like, CLICK HERE.

I am going to be completely honest, although in hindsight I realize I was quite naive.  When I first started working with women who were trying to get pregnant, I assumed most of them would be quick to get pregnant and have beautiful healthy babies.  I knew some women may need a little extra help, and some were struggling with fertility.  Of course, I knew about miscarriage and stillbirths and dying babies.  But, this isn’t something that happens to me, or people I know.  It certainly wouldn’t happen to my clients.  They would all have beautiful pregnancies with no health issues or concerns.  When I started writing this blog three years ago, I imagined every pregnancy being perfect.  They would all be happy ending stories.  Success stories.

I was wrong.  That’s not reality.  Now to be fair, most of my past clients are now blessed with healthy babies.  And I truly feel Rosalyn will have her baby too.  Unfortunately, for some couples their dreams of becoming a parent never do happen.  Or they adopt or find alternative methods of having children.  Or sometimes sad stories get their happy ending eventually.  But it’s a long, arduous road to get there, filled with grief and disappointment along the way.

Rosalyn is not alone, and she is not my first client to have a miscarriage.  She is the first one I am blogging about.  But, I have seen many women with fertility issues and repeated miscarriages.  It happens a lot more than we may think.

We should talk about it.  Chances are you know someone who has lost a baby.  It could be a co-worker, a friend, cousin, sister or neighbour.  It could be anyone and they may be suffering in silence.

There is help out there.  One resource is a group called Pregnancy and Infant Loss Network or PAIL.  If you are reading this and have experienced a loss I encourage you to reach out to them.  Or reach out to your family and friends.  You may be surprised to learn that someone you know has also suffered a loss.  Find a local support group in your area.  Find help.  It’s out there.

If you know someone who has experienced a miscarriage, let them know you are thinking of them and that their baby matters.  Ask them how they are feeling and be there to listen when they need to talk.

Rosalyn has won my Biggest Contest Ever. This means from now until she gives birth, we will be working closely together on her prenatal health and nutrition goals.  If she is unsuccessful in achieving pregnancy we will end this blog after one year of trying.  Of course, this is not the outcome we are all hoping for.

When I first met Rosalyn I knew she knew her stuff.  She has done a lot of her own research on fertility and miscarriage.  I knew right away that it would be a challenge for me to come up with new methods of improving fertility that she hasn’t already tried.

She and her husband are currently undergoing fertility treatments.  Rosalyn has been pregnant in the past, a total of eight times.  Three of those pregnancies were successful and she has 3 beautiful, healthy boys.  She has suffered 5 losses altogether.  This last one is the first time they have found a heartbeat and this makes it the most difficult of all.

Next month I will post an update on Rosalyn’s story.

I’d like to do something different this time and Rosalyn has given me permission to share her thoughts after reading this blog.  Here they are.

You never think it’s going to happen to you, or probably anyone else you know, until it does. Infertility and miscarriages are shockingly common. As a society we just suck at talking about it. When I came out on (social media) with my third loss, I was amazed how many women had been through the same. We need to stop making it a taboo to talk and share our stories. And it’s more than just infertility and miscarriages, there’s also late term loss, still births, and it happens to real people. Not just to ‘other’ people you’ll never know.

I knew when I was younger and had my boys, how precarious nature was. How hard it is for every little thing to come together to make a baby. I knew, but I don’t think I *knew*, if you know what I mean? Now I look at my kids and am overwhelmed that they were ever possible in the first place.

People keep saying how brave I am, but I don’t really think so. You just… with the hand you’re dealt. Like right now I still have to go through this miscarriage, I have no idea how it’ll play out, if my body will take care of it or if it’ll end up in the hospital, or if it’ll drag on and on. I have no idea. It’s ugly, it’s huge, I don’t want to do it. But there’s no way around that wall of ugly – you just got to soldier on and make it through the other side, because lying down to die is not an option. And really, that’s all people with these fertility and loss problems do, is just keep moving, like a shark that doesn’t want to drown. We’re not brave, we’re just surviving.

I used to think that RPL (repeat pregnancy loss) would be the most horrible thing ever. And somedays, it is complete hell on earth. But somehow, you make it through when it happens to you, mostly because you really don’t have a choice not to.

Thank you for bringing up the spouse! Men often get ignored. I think seeing the heartbeat has been especially tough on my husband.  Men grieve too, but somehow our society is even worse about men grieving and being affected by fertility issues than women. We ARE talking more about it, and it’s less taboo for a woman to have infertility issues, but it’s still very taboo for men. The stats are – 50% of infertility cases have a male factor issue at least partially. Which means, half the time, the guy is at least part of the problem. And yet, everyone assumes it’s the womens’ body at fault all the time – it’s not. For us, we believe that we are repeatedly creating aneuploid (chromosomally abnormal) embryos because of a combination of my older eggs and my husband’s DNA damaged sperm. It can be extremely hard for guys to accept that and it’s very taboo.

I’m not grateful for having this crap happen, obviously…..but in a way I value feeling the loss and sorrow, because it gives shadow to the bright spots in my life and makes my human experience fuller and more complete…….I’m not sure that makes sense, but somehow a life filled with nothing but good would seem a bit, shallow by comparison? That the human experience isn’t complete without the darkness too, like a yin/yang thing.

Rosalyn's baby.

Rosalyn’s baby.


Here are a few articles that Rosalyn found helpful and wanted to share:

“Why Are We So Bad at Acknowledging Pregnancy Loss”

“Let’s Talk About Miscarriage”


Right now, I ask that you please take a moment and think of these babies who have been taken too soon.  Keep their memories alive.  If you know someone who has suffered a loss, let them know you haven’t forgotten.  Those precious little lives had meaning, however short their time was on earth.  If you have any kind words you would like to share with Rosalyn, please leave a comment or send a private message to

Thank you for taking time from your day to read Rosalyn’s introductory blog.  I hope you will continue to follow her story as it unfolds.  To be notified when the next blog is posted, CLICK HERE  to subscribe to my email list.